Thoughts to you from yours truly - ( 49 ) - November 24, 2010

Thoughts to You from Yours Truly - ( TYYT ) - ( 49 ) - True Self ( 真我 ) - Nov., 24, 2010

One's true character can only be seen either at the best of time or the worst of time ( This is not a quotation from Charles Dickens' A Tale of Two Cities ). During the better times in one's life there is often a tendency for one to indulge in self satisfaction or worst still egotistic expansion. One is used to seeing newly rich people shouting at waiters and their servants as if the newly rich were superior beings from outer space. The same kind of people could also disgrace themselves during the worst hours in their lives such as when they experience a failure in their career or business. In those unfortunate times, people would easily resort to illicit means by hook or by crook to revive their fortune. All scruples will be thrown out of the window so to speak. In between times, it is usually very difficult to see one's true character except when a conflict of interest arises between you and the subject who could be your friends or even relative. We could all chalk it up to human nature but that is not a helpful approach at all. Rather put oneself at a higher perspective and all our troubles will be cut down to size - the right size in the context of our life and better still nature. If one can manage to do this one will amicably restore one's composure and regain one's peace of mind to revert to one's normal self which by and large is not really one's true self. Despite this unsatisfactory situation one must strive to reveal your true self in the best way by acquiring a balanced sense of value so as to create a normal self which will then become your good and true self.

一個人的真性情，只能在本人最佳時刻，或最壞時刻，才會表現出來的（ 這並不是引用狄更斯雙城記中的句子 ）。當一個人在幸運中，往往會得意忘形，只顧追尋自我滿足，甚至自我膨漲。我們經常看到新進的富豪，對侍應或庸人，呼呼喝喝。就好比自己是從外太空而來的 超人一般。同一類的人亦會令自己出醜。比如，他們生意上或在事業上失敗時，十分容易誤入歧途，不顧一切地去搏回自己的財富或事業, 把個人原則，擲出窗外不顧。在一些沒有那麼極端的時候，通常是十分難觀察到一個人的真實性格。也有例外的時候， 比如你和他們存在利益衝突，這時就算是朋友或親戚關係，也會真性情切底表露，爭過不了。我們可以嘆息這是人的劣根性。但是這樣對事情並沒有幫助。寧可將自 己放在一個更高層次，退一步海闊天空。我們的煩惱便會變為小一點，在整個人生和大自然中，佔一個比較合理的大小尺碼了。假如我們能這樣做，我們的心態也會 回復平衡一點。我們便可以回復心境平和，達到正常狀態。但正常可能不是最真和善的自我。雖然如此，我們必須學習達到一個平衡的價值觀，這樣，一個正常的我 便可成為一個真善美的真我了。

JKHC.